Open any men’s magazine on the news stand and your are virtually guaranteed to read an article about the top ways to turn on the opposite sex. The same is true for most popular women’s magazines. Most lists have things like physical attributes and intelligence in common. However, there is one attribute missing from the list of top male turn ons that I think could be included: Saving money.
Gifts from the Heart, Fastest Way to Our Heart
They say the fastest way to a guy’s heart is through his stomach, implying that a great cook can land even the most eligible bachelor. I admit I have a weakness for great cooking (and the stomach to prove it), but there is something that ranks even higher for us frugal guys. Last year my wife gave me one of the greatest frugal Valentine’s Day gifts ever. While most people were out crawling the mall jewelry stores and searching for the perfect electronic gadget for their husbands, my wife picked up a glass candy jar, rose petals, and colored paper. She spent the better part of a day handwriting 50 reasons why she loved me on each strip of paper, filling the jar with a festive combination of pink, red and white notes on a bed of rose petals. She presented the jar to me on Valentine’s Day and watched as I read each message from the jar. It was one of the most meaningful gifts I’ve ever received.
Is Saving Money Really a Turn On?
Being a saver is a turn on for most husbands, however I’m not sure it is a mutually desired trait for most wives. I’m sure most women (and many men) would prefer to have a spouse that spent money showering them with lavish gifts. After all, these are the types of examples we see on television. Our entertainment industry has made “bling” a household word and the object of many people’s desire. Unfortunately, “bling” requires a lot of money that the average person simply cannot afford. Some spend like crazy anyway, racking up a mountain of debt in the process. I don’t know about you, but there is nothing sexy about a mountain of debt!
When it comes to the frugal guy (or girl) in your life, it may not be the act of saving money that is a turn on, rather it is the shared attributes of those who enjoy living frugally that causes sparks to fly. In the case of my wife and I, a mutual desire to be better stewards of money and resources, and a collection of shared goals centered around the idea of financial independence, keeps us close and moving in the same direction, financially and otherwise.